2019 – Three Words to Live By

A year ago, I posted my three words to live by for 2018.

Frugality (updated to minimalism). Grace. Truth.

I will continue to live by those three words in 2019 and I will be adding to those words three new words. I wrote this post three weeks ago on November 26th, but after reading what I had written I posted the following on The Blogging Owl Facebook page:

“Sometimes you just have to remove your hands from the keyboard and allow what has been written to marinate for as long as it takes be become tender.”  – The Blogging Owl

While my three words to live by in 2019 are the same, this post is much different than the one I wrote on November 26th.

Wisdom (seek)

The world demands our immediate response because of the fast pace of technology. My three words to live by in 2018 – minimalismgracetruth – have taught me to slow down in mind, body, and spirit.

How often have I given an opinion or posted a comment here, elsewhere or in person that didn’t legitimately seek to understand but resulted in derision and divisiveness?

While owls are supposedly known for their wisdom (I don’t include myself here), I have chosen my first word to be – Wisdom.

To seek knowledge of what is true or right, coupled with just judgment as to action, discernment, or insight. (Dictionary.com)

“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.”  – e.e. cummings

In this owl’s opinion, if a person does not feed the brain, the person becomes greedy. If a person does not feed the heart, the person becomes needy. And in both cases, the person becomes self-serving in spirit.

Proverbs 2:6-11 GOD’S WORD Translation (GW)
6 The LORD gives wisdom.
From his mouth come knowledge and understanding.
7 He has reserved priceless wisdom for decent people.
He is a shield for those who walk in integrity
8 in order to guard those on the paths of justice
and to watch over the way of his godly ones.
9 Then you will understand what is right and just and fair—
every good course in life.
10 Wisdom will come into your heart.
Knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.
11 Foresight will protect you.
Understanding will guard you.

Honor (speak)

My second word to live by in 2019 is – Honor. Honor goes hand in hand with wisdom.

“To speak with honesty, fairness, or integrity in one’s beliefs and actions.” (Dictionary.com)

Bold convictions do not require me to be unkind, but rather with emotional intelligence to reach understanding. There is a difference between understanding and acceptance that must be said. We are all made by God and I accept that person. Period. My goal is to do my best to understand that person or circumstance.

The best place to be at in any given moment is when I am surrounded by people who support me and lift me higher in mind, body and spirit whether they are family, friends, church, community or where I am employed. Even so, in or out of that cocoon, they and the world will challenge my opinions and even my heart. I accept, and I understand that reality.

Proverbs 4:6-8 GOD’S WORD Translation (GW)
6 Do not abandon wisdom, and it will watch over you.
Love wisdom, and it will protect you.
7 The beginning of wisdom is to acquire wisdom.
Acquire understanding with all that you have.
8 Cherish wisdom.
It will raise you up.
It will bring you honor when you embrace it.

Joy (share)

For. The. Love. of. Scotch!

JOY! Is all around us if we just take the time to look for it, believe it, and feel it.

“To share happiness caused by living in the present, of finding delight in what is good.” (Dictionary.com)

“Self-confinement makes joy impossible. Feed my fears and my faith will starve. Feed my faith and my fear starves.” The Blogging Owl

Feeding my faith every day in mind, body and spirit helps me to find joy and share it even when it is purely the simple act of sharing a smile, opening a door for someone, or  just listening to someone who is struggling in mind, body and spirit.

The smallest act of kindness toward someone maybe the biggest part of that person’s day. Be the biggest part of someone’s day. – The Blogging Owl

“Walk as if you are kissing the Earth with your feet.” Thich Nhat Hanh

Looking forward to 2019

There was a reason for taking my hands away from the keyboard 3 weeks ago. God still had much to teach me with my words to live by in 2018 in minimalism, grace and truth. After attending two separate funeral visitations of people who left this earth too soon, I have been called to write something very special in 2019 and to share that joy will take those 3 words to live in 2018 and plenty of wisdom and honor.

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“Your profession is not what brings home your weekly paycheck, your profession is what you’re put here on earth to do, with such passion and such intensity that it becomes spiritual in calling.”  Vincent van Gogh

Writing is my calling.

In the words of the poet, June Jordan,“As I am a poet, I express what I believe, and I fight against it whatever I oppose, in poetry.”

In minimalist fashion, may I write with grace, truth, wisdom and honor and with the understanding of sharing my joy with you.

Peace,

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The Blogging Owl

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Finding Joy – Honesty

Mike Swartz #1

Joy in Friendship

Whenever there is a major shift in one’s life, whether it is an unexpected loss of a job, a loved one, or a relationship, we count on our friends to listen, to make us laugh, and to love us. And last week when my employer announced they would dissolve, there was plenty of joy in friendship this past week.

There are those like my friend, Rick, who suggested, “find a way to make money while pursuing your passion. That’s the challenge.” And in that same Facebook interchange, my friend, Anita responded, “Well, in some cases it is possible. I sold far more $$ worth of beads and jewelry in the past 18 years than I ever made (totaled) during my whole teaching career. Of course, after deducting the money I spent on tools, equipment, and materials, it’s a much more modest amount. But it’s still been wonderful to make money from creating things.”

To which my friend, Rick responded, “Visualize yourself writing and checks arriving in the mail. You are happy, healthy, and prosperous. Hold that visualization. Don’t concern yourself with how it happens, just see it happening. Once you imprint on the end result, your subconscious mind will guide you. Trust your intuition, it is your higher consciousness talking.” And he continued, “Also, tell everyone you know about your dream. The more the better. Thoughts are prayers. Get your own prayer circle of friends working on this with you.”

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Joy in Emotional Intelligence

Yet there always seems to be one or two in that circle of family and friends that want to seemingly suck all the joy out of you.

What’s all this finding joy shit?

Where is your faith talking getting you?

You would look better with longer hair, or you need to start thinking about your weight.

Why does this keep happening to you?

It wasn’t the words in that last question, but it was in tone and delivery as though it was an indictment of some irresponsibility on my part that I am now without full-time employment.

And to all these people I responded silently in my head with a smile on my face, “Thank you. How is life going for you?”

Spirit of Faith

Joy in Life

The commitment to finding joy each day started before my sudden unemployment and it will continue in my search for a new career.

(An excerpt from my prayer journal 4/18)

Discouraged or disappointed? It’s my choice. God will place me where He needs me, and it is there I will joyfully serve.

“Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. Romans 5:1-5”

Not my job to judge

I don’t know how anyone gets through life without faith, but I am not here to judge. My job is to love others without stopping to inquire whether or not they are worthy. I found joy in helping a co-worker needing help in writing her resume. I’ll continue joyfully  helping others and in continued faith.

My definition

Joy in Honesty

As I have told many of my co-workers and others who are looking for jobs or even something more in their life like love, know your worth. God paid a heavy price for me (and for you). It’s okay to speak your mind, however, I am going to remain speaking and writing from my heart.

Finding joy is important. We cannot thrive nor help others thrive without joy. Finding joy each day may be difficult. We must be intentional in finding it.

birds still sing in spring
snow, hail, sun, rain or rainbows
intentional joy
(c) 2018 SL Prielipp-Falzone

Peace,

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The Blogging Owl

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The Joyful Journey is a blog series. This is the second post in the series. I will be blogging pages from my journal on where I have found joy. All blog posts will be stored in the category labeled #TheJoyfulJourney.

I hope you will join me on this expedition of finding joy. Not only finding it but sharing it with me and the followers of The Blogging Owl. Whether in posting a comment on The Blogging Owl page or have a guest blog spot on The Blogging Owl (email me at Hoot@TheBloggingOwl.com).

(c) 2017-2018 All Rights Reserved – The Blogging Owl – SL Prielipp-Falzone

Finding Joy – The Unexpected

As I lay here in bed at 4 a.m. Sunday morning listening to the freezing rain pelt the bedroom window. The end of the week news just like the weather in mid-April is not what I wanted to hear.

Last week started with putting Heaven’s Vineyard, our cottage in northern Michigan on the market. It was a bright sunny day, even though there was about two inches of snow on the ground. But the weather this time of year isn’t totally unexpected in northern Michigan and neither was putting our cottage up for sale. Our sons are grown and away at college. Vinny Sal and I are looking to enjoy life daily and not just on weekends with a three and half hour car ride with two pups in the backseat. We had plans with the proceeds from the sale of our cottage.

(an excerpt from my prayer journal 4/9)

joy is found
never can be sold
memories

Last Monday was my birthday. It was pleasant enough and I had taken the day off work to enjoy peace and quiet. The day was gray, dank and snowing but still relaxing with a delightful book in hand for a future book review for this blog. It is how anyone who knows me would expect me to enjoy my birthday.

(an excerpt from my prayer journal 4/10)

the sun shines
on the day after
my birthday

I found joy today in the office. Yes! The office! Because I work with fantastic people who decorated my little cubicle, a birthday card signed by all, and beautiful, delicious cake.

Last Wednesday was my first day at physical therapy. It was all around a difficult day in mind, body and spirit. More theory than answers to the diagnosis. It wasn’t unexpected and neither was my friend’s response.

(an excerpt from my prayer journal on 4/11)

You know where I found joy today?

I thought it was just the robin belting out a song this morning amid a slight snow shower in spring. Joy could have stopped right there but at the end of a long, difficult day there was more joy to be found.

Some days are difficult to get through for whatever reason. But I found joy today in a friendship I have had less than two years. She is in a ‘class’ of strong women in my life that know and when I need an encouraging word and sometimes when I need to be talked off the ledge, so to speak. We all need those types of friends and I am grateful for her today. And sometimes these friends don’t even know the joy they bring… but now they do… I at least I hope they do.

Last Thursday the last line in my prayer journal before heading out to the office was this:

(an excerpt from my prayer journal 4/12)

“Where will I find joy today?”

At lunch time, I took a short walk outside and in my prayer journal I wrote, “JOY! 69 degrees, balmy breeze and sunshine!”

In Michigan, the weather can be 69 degrees midday and by nightfall a blizzard. The drastic change in weather seemingly in hours is to be expected.

At 4 p.m. the unexpected did happen. As everyone at the office huddled into the conference training room, the company announced it would be ceasing operations nationally and we all had a job and a paycheck for at least the next 60 days.
I went through a similar scenario in the summer of 2009. While still shocking I did not shed a tear. I did not feel a sense of overwhelming panic like I did that July 9 years ago. What I did feel as I looked around the room at many faces of varying degrees of age and looks of disbelief was sorrow. I deeply understood the internal wave of panic, the many questions without answers, and the sense of failure although unwarranted by either company or individual.

Friday, the 13th. Where would joy be found?

Friday was the second day of physical therapy and no less daunting and exasperating.

(excerpts from my prayer journal 4/13 throughout the day)

It’s Friday the 13th. Many people find this to be a “bad” or an “unlucky” day. But for those who intentionally look for joy will find it even on today.”

no love lost
wishing time away
melting snow

Yes, it is Friday the 13th and then this happens… It is not the birthday present I had hoped for this week, but there is still JOY to be found in all the wonderful people I have met here. They are the BEST people I have been associated with in my career.

Then Saturday, time to think (and write)

(excerpt from my prayer journal 4/14)

There is joy today in the soothing sound of a steady albeit a cold rain. Spring will arrive eventually as well as the joy in mind, body and spirit. Joy always seems its’ purest when radiating from a bright yellow sun against the bluest hue of a cloudless sky. Yesterday is done. Today is beginning and tomorrow holds the joy of opportunity.

Where there is joy there is hope. And where there is hope, we thrive.

Back to today, Sunday, the start of a new week

As I continue to lay here like lead in the waning night time hours writhing in bodily pain with still unanswered questions of my own future, I know this one thing. In mind, body and spirit, I will find joy in each day.

Every day is like the weather in Michigan. The unexpected will happen. But there is joy to be found. I remember many years ago when I was going through my own job loss panic, one of my colleagues said to me, “Do you have your family?” Yes, replied. “Is everyone healthy?” Yes, I replied. “Then you have everything you need.”

I have a God and a family who loves me. I’m not dead. I’m alive. Yes, I have everything I  need for mind, body and spirit.

As for my colleagues who are my friends, I am reminded of Psalms 27:17:

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
Darkest Hour

 

I’ll write the question again. Why is joy so important?

Where there is joy there is hope.
Where there is hope, we thrive.
When we thrive, others thrive.

Peace,

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The Blogging Owl

 

The Joyful Journey is a blog series. This is the second post in the series. I will be blogging pages from my journal on where I have found joy. All blog posts will be stored in the category labeled #TheJoyfulJourney.

I hope you will join me on this expedition of finding joy. Not only finding it but sharing it with me and the followers of The Blogging Owl. Whether in posting a comment on The Blogging Owl page or have a guest blog spot on The Blogging Owl (email me at Hoot@TheBloggingOwl.com).

P.S. I will be back to posting book reviews and other stories of the nest soon!