Where truth leads

For believers, God has the power to be everywhere and to do anything.

For non-believers, the question remains.

Where was God in all this victimization?

Each week seems to bring new accusations of sexual molestation, sexual harassment and sexual assault as more victims find their voice as evident now in the public revelation of Kevin Spacey’s alleged long standing behavior. Palms slapping foreheads. Fingers plugging ears. Eyes looking elsewhere. Mouths speaking words of disbelief to condemn both the accused and their victims.

But first ask, where were all the bystanders?

Spouse, parent, employer, coworker, colleague, or witness on the street, where were you? I’ll tell you where you were – dependent upon your own needs, your investment, your paycheck, and your unwillingness to get involved. It’s the ugliest of human betrayal.

Say you didn’t know. Say you didn’t believe. Say what you want.

Say whatever helps you sleep at night. You, bystanders who now crawl from underneath your rationalization, are not brave. You are not courageous. You are complicit. The only ones who are innocent are the ones who were being abused too.

“But let justice flow like a river and righteousness like an ever-flowing stream.” Amos 5:24

See if you can sleep after reading these statistics

Victims of Sexual Violence: Statistics
Victims and Perpetrators Research
Effects of Child Sexual Abuse on Victims

God’s ways are beyond human understanding

I’ll be honest. I struggled with that same question as unbelievers. Where was God in all my sexual abuse circumstances?

The struggle became even more apparent after losing a coveted career in 2009 due to the raping of the United States economy and American families. Bitterness moved in with shame and anxiety. All three capsizing me. On the edge of drowning, I faced what my memory did not want me to see.

“My soul is weak from waiting for you to save me. My hope is based on your word. My eyes have become strained from looking for your promise. I ask, “When will you comfort me?” ” Psalm 119:81-82

God was there

God sent angels, who unknowing of my internal struggles, helped me to see God’s light, hear God’s Word, and feel God’s love. Comforted, I accept who and where I am. God was  there and He is here now.

“He rescues suffering people through their suffering and opens their ears through distress.” Job 36:15

And what I have learned since is this… I will put my hope in God each, and every time over bystanders. I can’t make unbelievers believe, but I have heard God’s call. My struggles have equipped me to help bystanders do the right thing… to stand up and speak out against abuse of any kind to anyone or animal.

Truth

Peace,

The Blogging Owl

 

The Fragile

Dedicated to those who suffer from mental illness, drug and alcohol addiction, and the people who love them.  

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The Fragile

A fragile spirit
Woven in our heart
Snatched away
Lives left dangling
There gapes a wound
Too deep for healing

An unspoken conversation
Taken place in the deepest parts
Of the human heart
Experiences too huge to be born
Death speaks to death
A conversation the living cannot hear

God’s presence
In every circumstance
In every moment
God who stood before
Our birthing
Stands past our dying

Facing absolute weakness
Facing death
Facing the world
God was there
In that unspoken conversation
Receiving the fragile

Crippled by our loss
God’s mercy receives us
The living now the fragile
Past the greater reality of daylight
And there into the night of tears
Holding us in our grief

Written by:  Sheri L. Prielipp-Falzone

© 2016 All Rights Reserved

 

Transforming: Beauty in its time

Transformation

This spring my youngest son will be graduating from high school. In the fall, I will have both sons in college. I am facing an empty nest with my husband, Vinny Sal.

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” C.S. Lewis

The second half of my life I vow will be transformed in spirit, mind, and body. As much as motherhood was, and is, the most fulfilling part of my life, I want to rid myself of that gnawing sense of living a mediocre life, an unexamined life. 2015 was a revelation of being busy and bored at the same time. I want to close that gap of who I am today and who God created me to be.

“Spiritual transformation doesn’t take place on Sunday when we get want we want. It takes place on Saturday while we’re waiting. It’s what is forged while we’re waiting, hoping, trusting even though we have yet to receive that for which we long for.” – Pete Wilson, author of Plan B: What Do You Do When God Doesn’t Show Up the Way You Thought He Would?

This quote reminds me of football. Young men play countless games from childhood through college hoping to play in the NFL on Sunday. Yet few make it on the football field. While others receive what they long for in other ways as a coach, an assistant, a trainer, a sports analyst – whatever connects them to the game they love – football. I may never be a successful author, or an author at all but my Saturdays will be waiting, hoping, trusting that God is here in my current circumstances transforming me into who He wants me to be – a blogger? I no longer will allow my circumstances to distort my perspective and miss God and who He wants me to be.

I read many great books in 2015. One book, in particular, set me on a life-changing course in an unexpected way. On the back cover of the book, “Just Listen – Discover the Secret of Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone” by Mark Goulston, MD, it reads, “Is there someone in your life who just won’t listen, no matter what you say? … If only you could get that person into a calm and receptive state of mind, you’d probably be able to work out your differences…. Just Listen will get you there.” I read this book with the intention that it would help me to get through to other people. Instead, the book opened my mind to get through to me.

“The most successful people are those who don’t have any illusions about who they are.” Dr. Goulston quotes Bud Bray, author of “Is It Too Late to Run Away and Join the Circus?” In chapter 9, Dr. Goulston offers a challenge to the reader: ask friends or relatives how they perceive you. I carried out this experiment with my husband, two sons, close friends, my pastor, a long-time previous boss and other associates. I was astonished to the similarity of their responses. I am grateful to those who accepted this challenge to honestly share with me the top three descriptive words from the list given to them. The book, Just Listen, transforming my mind meant checking my dissonance of who I think I am at the door.

“Reach boldly for the miracle. God knows your gifts, your hindrances and the condition you’re in at every moment.” Bruce Wilkerson

#Vegan2016 – transforming the body not for vanity, but for fueling the spirit and mind to close that gap for who God created me to be. To be the best I can be in spite of any hindrances and conditions. In the words of one of the best coaches in football today, “Be better tomorrow than you are today,” Jim Harbaugh, Head Coach of my beloved University of Michigan Wolverines.

“The empty nest is not an empty life.” A Sparrow Sings

“He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.” Ecclesiastes 3:11 NIV