IF I am being honest – Becoming

After writing my 7th post in my series, IF I am being honest – 7 Lessons, my husband, Vinny Sal asked me how I felt about blogging this “thing.” What do you mean this “thing?” I asked. He asked, “How do you feel about putting all that out there (my journey to wellness)?”

I instantly replied, “It is who I am.”

Oprah Winfrey asked the former First Lady, Michelle Obama why she chose the title, “Becoming” for her memoir. The First Lady summed up by saying, “My journey is the journey of always continually evolving.”

I believe that is true for anyone, including myself who chooses in earnest to become the best I can be.

IF I am being honest, my journey to wellness

I reread my first 7 posts to reflect on where I stand in my 8th post on my journey to wellness.

My first post on why I was converting to an Intermittent Fasting lifestyle. I was obese and I am still obese 8 months later. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/02/02/if-i-am-being-honest-obesity/

My second post was a reality check on food love rather than self-love. If I am being honest, I always thought I loved myself, but I did not. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/03/02/if-i-am-being-honest-food-love/

My third post reflected on the invisible weight, my spirituality. As I share in my 7th post, I have learned that one’s spirit leads the way in mind and body. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/03/31/if-i-am-being-honest-invisible-weight/

In my fourth post I discussed the reality of autoimmune diseases, and I shared how the Hashimoto’s disease has been my nemeses. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/05/04/if-i-am-being-honest-autoimmune-disease/

I outlined the killers (shamers) in my fifth post who want to add the weight of judgment to a person’s journey to wellness. These are often people who profess to be there to help a person in their journey to be the best they can be but make their hidden biases known just the same. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/06/01/if-i-am-being-honest-the-killers/

Six months in, I reviewed my relationships with food, exercise and personal relationships. I take responsibility. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/07/04/if-i-am-being-honest-my-1st-6-months/

7 Lessons written in my seventh post outlined what I have learned since converting to a lifestyle of Intermittent Fasting. My journey to wellness in mind, body and spirit reviews the pain and progress with kicking addiction and relapse. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/08/11/if-i-am-being-honest-7-lessons/

8 Months, an Evolution of Self Awareness in Mind, Body, Spirit

My journey to wellness began well before my conversion to the intermittent fasting lifestyle. The evolution of that journey had finally taken me to a place requiring me to admit my obesity and how it was affecting my mind, body and spirit. Ultimately, it was not only taking a toll on me, but how I reacted to the world beyond me.

I take responsibility for my body.

In the beginning I told myself that while I was obese I would allow my body to lose the weight on its timetable in part due to my Hashimoto’s autoimmune disease, but also because I did not want to set myself up for failure no matter how I perfect I was in following the IF lifestyle. While I have lost 27 pounds to date and inches off my waist and hips since January 2, 2019, I still have mind walls to conquer with fasting, food and exercise.

I know I am healthier because I no longer have joint inflammation. I can now walk up and down stairs, perhaps not as quickly as others, but I can!

I still have periodic phases of insomnia, which I believe is due to eating the incorrect number of cards specifically sugar.

Rather than being passive about weight loss with intermittent fasting, I am setting a goal for my one-year anniversary, January 2, 2019. My goal is 50 pounds lost for my first year with converting to intermittent fasting.

I take responsibility for my relationships.

Overall, I believe I am in a better place in my mind with feeding not only my body with healthy food, but I have more clarity in feeding on what I take in personally, professionally and socially. I, like everyone, have hidden biases and so I have become much more aware of my biases, and I am working on changing my perspective.

For example, I read and react too much with social media. I love my country, the United States, but I hate what is going on and to our country. Have I been adding to the divisiveness? Do others really care about my opinion? I will always be an advocate for the vulnerable and an activist for the environment, democracy and fairness. That will never change, but I can do it more thoughtfully and in a forum that is reasonable, responsive and respectful. I will keep my Facebook feed clear of anything that would affect my relationships with others or add to the divisive noise in the world.

I take responsibility for my faith.

God knows my heart. He knows everyone’s heart that is why I do my best not to judge the place where others are at in their journey. Some have called me out on my thoughts on the lack of courtesy of smokers or my use of “colorful” language… okay, I won’t dance around my use of the “F” word. The light of my spirit should be shown and not the slip of my tongue so to speak, they say.

As I have said throughout this series, the spirit leads the mind and body. I take responsibility of my lack of self-awareness in how my Christian faith is perceived in my words and actions. My faith is a critical in who I am. Follow my blog, The Prayer Journals for further insight on faith.

And I am who I am, today, evolving to become better in mind, body and spirit. I did not realize that when I started Intermittent Fasting that it would be an awakening and a lifestyle change in all three areas.

IF I am being honest, my next post on The Blogging Owl

My next post will be the tale of the two cardiologists. Intermittent Fasting, foe or friend on my journey to wellness. This tale is still evolving! I will have their interesting discussions and findings when I post again next month in this series, IF I am being honest, my journey to wellness.

Until next time…

I will continue to post monthly in this series, IF I am being honest, my journey to wellness until January 2020. I will then post occasionally until I reach my weight goal. Blogging my progress helps me to keep it real for me in mind, body and spirit. If you need me to be a part of your tribe for wellness in mind, body and spirit, I hope you will reach out to me. I would love to hear from you. I sincerely appreciate my readers following The Blogging Owl and my other blogs too. Please feel free to leave a comment or contact me by email at Hoot@TheBloggingOwl.com.

Peace,

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2018 – Three Words to Live By, an update

Last December as I usually do I reflect on the past year and prepare to become better, if possible, in mind, body and spirit: 2018 – Three Words to Live By. This year I decided to review my yearly plan much like businesses do to stay on track to meet the goals and objectives for the new year.

My approach for 2018 or mission statement is to live by three words: frugality, grace and truth.

Frugality

At this stage in the game of life I decided I had no time to waste, no money to waste, and in reality; no creative cells to waste. In whatever time God has for me to fulfill the purpose he has given me. Earlier this year I adopted a mantra, I only want what God wants for me.”

No time to waste

My husband, Vinny Sal and I decided to list our cottage in northern Michigan for sale on April 9th. We would take advantage of the seller’s market and decide where, when, and how to invest the proceeds. Invest in upgrades for our primary home, invest in a future retirement home, or bank it until later. We had no idea what development was coming our way only 3 days later.

“I only want what God wants for me.”

This mantra is what got me through yet another employer announcing their dissolution of the company in April of this year… 3 days after my birthday… On Friday, April 13th, the company made the news public.

My response was 180 degrees different when the same thing occurred in 2009. I was calm, cool and collected.  I knew that God was working on my behalf for a better opportunity than the one I just lost. That was my attitude. The evening of the company’s announcement, I updated my resume and immediately began my search.

Within days I had several interviews lined up. On April 25th, I was invited to interview for a position outside of the industry I was in which was my prayer at the time. I was “frugal” in my thinking… no climbing ladders… no compensation package that met certain personal requirements… no, it was simply, “God, place me where you want me.”

“God, place me where you want me.”

On May 29th, I started a new position earning less money but with advancement opportunities if I wanted to take advantage of them. Although earning less income for the time being, I am still able to continue having all my monthly obligations on auto-pay which I had setup in January.

While no company is above dissolving due to wide ranging economic factors or board of director’s view of “going in another direction,” I will joyfully serve where God has placed me for however long that may be.

No time to spend

I came across the blog, Frugalwoods and an article written by Mrs. Frugalwoods, 19 Reasons Why Frugality Is the Best Thing That’s Ever Happened to Me. 

Mrs. Frugalwoods spoke to my mind, body and spirit in her blog post of May 17, 2018. Since the beginning of the year, my attempt at frugality has taught me that Mrs. Frugalwoods was spot on in her blog post. Although I admit I am still working on her number 14 reason. I have Mrs. Frugalwoods 19 Reasons posted in my office and saved on my iPhone when I have that urge to splurge.

Grace

In my initial post on December 17th, 2018 – Three Words to Live By, I didn’t realize then how the quotes, my personal initiative, “The Watering Can – Helping All of God’s Creature’s Thrive” would become central to the first six months of 2018.

As I quoted then, and it bears repeating for many reasons:

God saved you through faith as an act of kindness. You had nothing to do with it. Being saved is a gift from God. It’s not the result of anything you’ve done, so no one can brag about it. God has made us what we are. He has created us in Christ Jesus to live lives filled with good works that he has prepared for us to do.” Ephesians 2:8-10

As Thomas Merton was quoted as saying, “Our job is to love others without stopping to inquire whether or not they are worthy.”

Grace in action is about serving those who need my gifts. Kindness in action is living the commandment,‘Love your neighbor as you love yourself.’’’ Matthew 22:39

I was happy to help a few of co-workers rewrite their resumes. I used to write resumes as a side-line gig after I lost my job in 2009. My small way of helping my co-workers potentially find their new career has blessed me as much as those who, like me have found employment quickly. I’m not suggesting my resume writing made the difference, but it is a confidence booster nonetheless when anyone can present their value and what they can offer to an organization without hesitation.

In March, our beloved Barkley blew out a disc in his back and required surgery. Frugality helped us being able to afford over $6,500 in medical costs so our fur-baby would not be paralyzed for life. He will never be a 100% in his walking or running abilities, but we are overjoyed that we still have our faithful companion. Sadly, many pet owners would have faced the tough decision of raising the money through other means or having to put their pet down because of the medical costs.

Truth

If there is one thing I am certain living my truth in mind, body and spirit has been the biggest blessing. I could not have reached this point in my life without faith through Christ because he gives me the confidence to live my truth each day.

A recent post on my Facebook page, The Prayer Journals, I posted: “Don’t worry about expressing your faith. Those who God wants to listen will hear. You may be someone’s angel.” There have been angels here on earth that I know God sent to help me to listen to him. And there are probably more angels that I didn’t even recognize helped me to feel God’s presence in my life.

Mind

Writing is my passion and I hope in some ways it is a gift. I have three blogs. The Blogging Owl, The Prayer Journals, and The Owl Poet. And I have convinced my husband, Vinny Sal to collaborate with me on another one which I think we will have fun doing together, The Corked Owl. We hope to be posting soon on wine, spirits, food and fun.

Reading, writing and poetry. It’s what keeps me sane… or going insane.

Body

I continue to struggle with my health and weight. Early this year, I went through a battery of tests and MRIs. There was a serious prognosis of MS, Multiple Sclerosis, gratefully, that would not be the case. Autoimmune diseases are tricky and mine, Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis can present itself in different and devastating ways. But I stay positive in prayer and with practice.

Spirit

Six months into 2018, Vinny Sal and I have not found our faith community with regards to finding a church we are eager to attend each week. I’ll be honest. We’ve been lazy. This is the most critical part of my 2018 mission plan and I am failing. God has been good… and patient… and I pray He directs us to where he wants us to attend and to serve.

My spiritual journey continues in my prayer journal in writing my spiritual memoir.

Spirit of Faith

In the remaining year

I succeeded and failed in the first half of 2018. Looking forward to living more successfully in these three words: Frugality, Grace and Truth.

Cheers!

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Where truth leads

For believers, God has the power to be everywhere and to do anything.

For non-believers, the question remains.

Where was God in all this victimization?

Each week seems to bring new accusations of sexual molestation, sexual harassment and sexual assault as more victims find their voice as evident now in the public revelation of Kevin Spacey’s alleged long standing behavior. Palms slapping foreheads. Fingers plugging ears. Eyes looking elsewhere. Mouths speaking words of disbelief to condemn both the accused and their victims.

But first ask, where were all the bystanders?

Spouse, parent, employer, coworker, colleague, or witness on the street, where were you? I’ll tell you where you were – dependent upon your own needs, your investment, your paycheck, and your unwillingness to get involved. It’s the ugliest of human betrayal.

Say you didn’t know. Say you didn’t believe. Say what you want.

Say whatever helps you sleep at night. You, bystanders who now crawl from underneath your rationalization, are not brave. You are not courageous. You are complicit. The only ones who are innocent are the ones who were being abused too.

“But let justice flow like a river and righteousness like an ever-flowing stream.” Amos 5:24

See if you can sleep after reading these statistics

Victims of Sexual Violence: Statistics
Victims and Perpetrators Research
Effects of Child Sexual Abuse on Victims

God’s ways are beyond human understanding

I’ll be honest. I struggled with that same question as unbelievers. Where was God in all my sexual abuse circumstances?

The struggle became even more apparent after losing a coveted career in 2009 due to the raping of the United States economy and American families. Bitterness moved in with shame and anxiety. All three capsizing me. On the edge of drowning, I faced what my memory did not want me to see.

“My soul is weak from waiting for you to save me. My hope is based on your word. My eyes have become strained from looking for your promise. I ask, “When will you comfort me?” ” Psalm 119:81-82

God was there

God sent angels, who unknowing of my internal struggles, helped me to see God’s light, hear God’s Word, and feel God’s love. Comforted, I accept who and where I am. God was  there and He is here now.

“He rescues suffering people through their suffering and opens their ears through distress.” Job 36:15

And what I have learned since is this… I will put my hope in God each, and every time over bystanders. I can’t make unbelievers believe, but I have heard God’s call. My struggles have equipped me to help bystanders do the right thing… to stand up and speak out against abuse of any kind to anyone or animal.

Truth

Peace,

The Blogging Owl