Patience has no sense of humor.

This morning I posted on social media that I felt a blog post coming on. I was prepared to write on the topic of patience. I was prepared to finally have the second of two medical tests that would hopefully explain a continuing and worsening condition I have been experiencing since February. I was prepared to write that I would be patiently waiting for the results of the second test hopefully resulting in a normal diagnosis as my first medical test that I had completed a week ago.

I was prepared to write about the virtue of patience – the ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay.

The sense of humor test

Health insurance companies do not have a sense of urgency. In fact, I think they would rather we die instead. ”Let the life insurance companies handle it.” I can hear them laughing in their boardrooms.

Two common heart tests cannot be performed on the same day or my healthcare insurance will not pay for either test. This means I must take off two afternoons of work one week apart.

Patience.

First test, I arrived 3 minutes early and they called me back at the designated appointment time. I left exhausted but no issues. I survived the stress test. My cardiologist’s office called 3 days later with results. Normal. Now, I wait a 3 more days for the second test.

Patience.

Second test, I arrive 15 minutes early and they call me back at the designated appointment time for an Echocardiogram. I dutifully follow the technician’s instructions. She smears gel on my chest. I stifle a giggle.

BAM! LIGHTS OUT!

“Have I died? Have I ascended to heaven?” I ask, “because this is not how I imagined the ascension to heaven process would happen.”

I turn to see the frustration on her face with the computer screen. The lights flickered back on.

“No, Sheri, you are alive, but my computer is dead. We will have to reschedule your appointment. I am really sorry.” She says flatly with that still perturbed, furrowed brow.

I am not sure which one of us failed the sense of humor test. She ushered me to the scheduling desk to reschedule my echocardiogram. Another week. Another afternoon I must take off of work.

Patience

Waiting for answers

Google the word patience and you will find all kinds of quotes and memes trying to persuade us that patience doesn’t suck, and we are all better for hanging on and holding out.

I walked out to the hospital parking lot and climbed into my car. I cried.

I wasn’t just crying for myself. I looked around at all the cars in that hospital parking lot. Every car there had someone drive to this hospital today hoping for an answer. I thought about all the people I know who are waiting for answers to a myriad of life questions.

Life is all about waiting, isn’t it?

We seem to have to wait beyond our limits for something to arrive. Love, money, success, weight loss, health…

Patience.

I have the ability for patience. I do. I just don’t have the willingness to suppress my annoyance with delay.

How do I conjure up the willingness to suppress my annoyance, my restlessness for answers?

o   I remind myself every single time, patience has paid off for me.
o   I will write my way through it as I have time and time again.
o   Serve and comfort others because life is one big hospital waiting room.

Patience.

It is difficult to have a sense of humor in those times of waiting especially if it is a life or death matter. Yet, I hope I never lose my sense of humor short of that circumstance.
God wanted me to post about patience today. He just didn’t like what I was going to write so instead the joke is on me. He certainly has a funny sense of humor about my heart.

Until next time (unless you hear from my life insurance agent), be well.

Peace,

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IF I am being honest, Admitting Mistakes

My health is my responsibility – when doctors are dismissive

I have maintained my weight for the last two months. I am frustrated partly due to a recurring health issue – chest heaviness, angina-like attacks, extreme fatigue. The chest heaviness began in February when I thought I may have had pneumonia since many of my co-workers were sick at the time. The check x-ray found nothing except a small pericardial cyst. My primary care physician said it was nothing to worry about. Then in June and July the angina attacks started to occur again. My last one was a few years ago.

Why did these symptoms start again? I am in much better in mind, body, and spirit than I was 9 years even 1 year ago.

I made an appointment with my cardiologist who had initially determined I may have small vessel angina in 2011 but left it the diagnosis as undetermined. Several ER physicians and cardiologists at the time dismissed it as a bad case of GERD. At this recent appointment, my EKG was normal. The cardiologist went into a dismissive discussion on how Intermittent Fasting should not be continued long term. We debated the topic as I told him it was the first time in over 20 years that I had lost more than 3 pounds and I have kept it off. The debate continued somewhat hotly as he believed Weight Watchers is the best program.

SIDEBAR: Every single physician and specialist I have seen in this hospital system raves about Weight Watchers and it has been a topic at every single appointment regardless of why and who I was seeing for the visit. It makes me wonder if they are receiving a good referral fee for every patient that is referred to the Weight Watchers program. IF I am being honest, it should not be about a referral fee but a lifestyle a patient can maintain based solely upon the patient and not $$$. (Disclaimer: just my assumption on physician referrals.)

As I told my cardiologist, I have attempted Weight Watchers twice without seeing any weight loss or benefit primarily because it does not work with my lifestyle. I am not a tracking-points counting kind of person. Intermittent fasting works for my lifestyle and it is easy for me to do because I only need to consider the quality and quantity of food I am ingesting when I break my fast. I also educated him on the fact that not everyone who fasts intermittently follows a KETO diet, which I already knew is a cardiologist beef (pun intended).

I ended my cardiologist visit with a dismissive GERD diagnosis and to take an over-the-counter heartburn medication for at least 3 months. If my symptoms continued, my cardiologist recommended I see my gastroenterologist as he believed my intermittent fasting conversion has messed up my gut. He pronounced what I was experiencing had nothing to do with my heart even though this same cardiologist had prescribed me Nitro tablets for the exact same symptoms in 2011.

After 3 weeks of following the cardiologist’s recommendation of taking Prilosec otc every morning, I decided to return to my primary care physician for his recommendation. My symptoms had not changed, but in fact were worsening.

Let me just say, I love my primary care physician, Dr. “C”  who is in a different hospital health system than my cardiologist.

Dr. C was surprised that the cardiologist did not order any further tests and could simply diagnosis me with an EKG. He referred to a cardiologist within Dr. C’s same health system for further testing.

My second cardiologist was pleasant, listened intently, asked health history questions, never commented on anything except to answer my questions. He had a medical assistant in the room to scribe the entire appointment into a laptop so the doctor could give me his whole attention. I was impressed with my visit.

SIDEBAR: Heart disease runs rampant on both sides of my family. My father died at 52 years of age from heart disease followed by his younger siblings primarily in their 50’s and 60’s. My maternal grandfather died before I was born of a stroke related to heart disease. 

Within 3 weeks, a treadmill stress test and an echocardiogram were performed. My health care insurance would not pay for both tests to be performed on the same day. I received a call the cardiologist’s office after my stress test. The results were normal.

A few days after the echocardiogram, I received a call from the cardiologist’s office from a young-sounding office assistant who said in a very chipper voice that my results were normal, and that the cardiologist did not need to see me again. “What?” I asked. “The technician that performed the test was quite concerned that my resting heart rate was in the 100’s which is abnormal for me. I still have questions.” In her chipper voice, she responded, “Well, you could make an appointment with your primary care physician. Look, on the bright side,” she went on to say, “the results are normal!” Of course, I was relieved, however, I still did not have any answers. I immediately went back to see Dr. C.

Dr. C greeted me with a copy of my tests. Again, he was surprised the cardiologist’s office didn’t bother to send me a copy of them. We reviewed the tests and then he suggests, “perhaps this is psychological stress.” My face told it all. My anger rising. I was being dismissed again. It was all in my “head.”

“No, I do not believe I am overwhelmingly stressed. I have a great marriage. My kids are doing great as 20-something can be at their age, and my job does not cause me any stress which my husband can attest to as well,” I began to cry. He apologized and said he needed to ask the question and asked me to go through all my symptoms again. I told him it wasn’t his fault  and that I trusted him. I was just tired and exasperated at the feeling of being dismissed. It was all in my “head.”

He said, “Sheri, we will get to the bottom of this, so let’s look again at your Hashimoto’s diagnosis and get more detailed blood lab work done including testing for other autoimmune diseases.”

IF I am being honest, IF or GERD are not the cause for these symptoms.

I wasn’t fasting prior to 2019. The assumption that GERD was causing my angina-like symptoms seemed absurd to me since they occur well into a fasting state. My health is my responsibility. Even though there are many times, especially after seeing a dismissive doctor that I just want to say, “to hell with it, I will live with it,” my quality of life matters to me. I am willing to take the doctor’s advice even if I am proven wrong.

IF I am being honest, I do need to consider my IF mistakes.

I am sure that many of you who have been following this blog series, IF I am being honest, my journey to wellness have spotted at least one mistake of mine. Or should I say, a mistake that I am in denial.

My exercise mistake

In continuing my intermittent fasting research to help me determine why I have stalled in my weight loss, I found Dr. Stan Ekberg’s video on YouTube, 15 Mistakes of Intermittent Fasting that Make You Gain Weight.

While I have not regained weight, I have kept the 27-30 pound weight loss but I have so much more weight to lose. This video showed me that I have made all 15 mistakes over the course of converting to the IF lifestyle. My number one mistake has been my relationship with exercising, or the lack thereof in any meaningful way. So, I set out to find an exercise besides walking, golfing, and reading (just kidding, no, I’m not) that did not require a gym membership, a fitness class, or expensive equipment. My second requirement is the exercise couldn’t consume a good chunk of my precious (reading) time.

KettlebellKettlebell

I found an inexpensive and short exercise routine on YouTube using a Kettlebell. There are numerous routines lasting 5 minutes to 40 minutes using Kettlebell weights from 5 lbs. To 50 lbs. I am going to start with 10-pound Kettlebell for a $15 investment.

Tomorrow, I begin!

IF I am being honest, I am praying this is the answer to incorporating a daily cardio exercise routine that doesn’t cause any damage to furniture, electronics, or a trip to the ER. Don’t worry, I will report back here next month.

If you have any Kettlebell video routines or advice, tweet me @TheBloggingOwl, email  Hoot@TheBloggingOwl.com, or leave a comment on this post.

IF I am being honest, my next post on The Blogging Owl

My next post will discuss my other mistakes I have made in converting the IF lifestyle and a grocery list of my favorite go-to foods when I break a fast. IF I am being honest, my journey to wellness continues to evolve, but I am fully committed to getting it right in mind, body, and spirit.

Until next time…

I will continue to post monthly in this series, IF I am being honest, my journey to wellness until January 2020. I will then post occasionally until I reach my weight goal. Blogging my progress helps me to keep it real for me in mind, body and spirit. If you need me to be a part of your tribe for wellness in mind, body and spirit, I hope you will reach out to me. I would love to hear from you. I sincerely appreciate my readers following The Blogging Owl and my other blogs too.

Peace,

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The Blogging Owl

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IF I am being honest – Becoming

After writing my 7th post in my series, IF I am being honest – 7 Lessons, my husband, Vinny Sal asked me how I felt about blogging this “thing.” What do you mean this “thing?” I asked. He asked, “How do you feel about putting all that out there (my journey to wellness)?”

I instantly replied, “It is who I am.”

Oprah Winfrey asked the former First Lady, Michelle Obama why she chose the title, “Becoming” for her memoir. The First Lady summed up by saying, “My journey is the journey of always continually evolving.”

I believe that is true for anyone, including myself who chooses in earnest to become the best I can be.

IF I am being honest, my journey to wellness

I reread my first 7 posts to reflect on where I stand in my 8th post on my journey to wellness.

My first post on why I was converting to an Intermittent Fasting lifestyle. I was obese and I am still obese 8 months later. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/02/02/if-i-am-being-honest-obesity/

My second post was a reality check on food love rather than self-love. If I am being honest, I always thought I loved myself, but I did not. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/03/02/if-i-am-being-honest-food-love/

My third post reflected on the invisible weight, my spirituality. As I share in my 7th post, I have learned that one’s spirit leads the way in mind and body. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/03/31/if-i-am-being-honest-invisible-weight/

In my fourth post I discussed the reality of autoimmune diseases, and I shared how the Hashimoto’s disease has been my nemeses. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/05/04/if-i-am-being-honest-autoimmune-disease/

I outlined the killers (shamers) in my fifth post who want to add the weight of judgment to a person’s journey to wellness. These are often people who profess to be there to help a person in their journey to be the best they can be but make their hidden biases known just the same. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/06/01/if-i-am-being-honest-the-killers/

Six months in, I reviewed my relationships with food, exercise and personal relationships. I take responsibility. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/07/04/if-i-am-being-honest-my-1st-6-months/

7 Lessons written in my seventh post outlined what I have learned since converting to a lifestyle of Intermittent Fasting. My journey to wellness in mind, body and spirit reviews the pain and progress with kicking addiction and relapse. https://thebloggingowl.com/2019/08/11/if-i-am-being-honest-7-lessons/

8 Months, an Evolution of Self Awareness in Mind, Body, Spirit

My journey to wellness began well before my conversion to the intermittent fasting lifestyle. The evolution of that journey had finally taken me to a place requiring me to admit my obesity and how it was affecting my mind, body and spirit. Ultimately, it was not only taking a toll on me, but how I reacted to the world beyond me.

I take responsibility for my body.

In the beginning I told myself that while I was obese I would allow my body to lose the weight on its timetable in part due to my Hashimoto’s autoimmune disease, but also because I did not want to set myself up for failure no matter how I perfect I was in following the IF lifestyle. While I have lost 27 pounds to date and inches off my waist and hips since January 2, 2019, I still have mind walls to conquer with fasting, food and exercise.

I know I am healthier because I no longer have joint inflammation. I can now walk up and down stairs, perhaps not as quickly as others, but I can!

I still have periodic phases of insomnia, which I believe is due to eating the incorrect number of cards specifically sugar.

Rather than being passive about weight loss with intermittent fasting, I am setting a goal for my one-year anniversary, January 2, 2019. My goal is 50 pounds lost for my first year with converting to intermittent fasting.

I take responsibility for my relationships.

Overall, I believe I am in a better place in my mind with feeding not only my body with healthy food, but I have more clarity in feeding on what I take in personally, professionally and socially. I, like everyone, have hidden biases and so I have become much more aware of my biases, and I am working on changing my perspective.

For example, I read and react too much with social media. I love my country, the United States, but I hate what is going on and to our country. Have I been adding to the divisiveness? Do others really care about my opinion? I will always be an advocate for the vulnerable and an activist for the environment, democracy and fairness. That will never change, but I can do it more thoughtfully and in a forum that is reasonable, responsive and respectful. I will keep my Facebook feed clear of anything that would affect my relationships with others or add to the divisive noise in the world.

I take responsibility for my faith.

God knows my heart. He knows everyone’s heart that is why I do my best not to judge the place where others are at in their journey. Some have called me out on my thoughts on the lack of courtesy of smokers or my use of “colorful” language… okay, I won’t dance around my use of the “F” word. The light of my spirit should be shown and not the slip of my tongue so to speak, they say.

As I have said throughout this series, the spirit leads the mind and body. I take responsibility of my lack of self-awareness in how my Christian faith is perceived in my words and actions. My faith is a critical in who I am. Follow my blog, The Prayer Journals for further insight on faith.

And I am who I am, today, evolving to become better in mind, body and spirit. I did not realize that when I started Intermittent Fasting that it would be an awakening and a lifestyle change in all three areas.

IF I am being honest, my next post on The Blogging Owl

My next post will be the tale of the two cardiologists. Intermittent Fasting, foe or friend on my journey to wellness. This tale is still evolving! I will have their interesting discussions and findings when I post again next month in this series, IF I am being honest, my journey to wellness.

Until next time…

I will continue to post monthly in this series, IF I am being honest, my journey to wellness until January 2020. I will then post occasionally until I reach my weight goal. Blogging my progress helps me to keep it real for me in mind, body and spirit. If you need me to be a part of your tribe for wellness in mind, body and spirit, I hope you will reach out to me. I would love to hear from you. I sincerely appreciate my readers following The Blogging Owl and my other blogs too. Please feel free to leave a comment or contact me by email at Hoot@TheBloggingOwl.com.

Peace,

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The Blogging Owl

 

Any Book Recommendations?

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